I apologize to all the members of this board. When I came here with a idea to run for school board, it was not a very well thought out plan, and hence the main reason it did not come to pass. I felt attacked and for that I need to apologize. I was very loyal to Mr. Pilchesky as he had assisted someone very close to me with a painful situation. For that I am still greatful, but fully admit I had complete blinders on.
I have not posted over at DD for I think over nine months. I had stopped I believe before the very distasteful war of words between Mr. & Mrs. P. I know early on I had asked Joanne to stay on. I had no idea they no longer lived as a couple and was shocked by what has and is being posted on dd. When I read the horrible things being written in an open public forum, by a husband to his estranged wife, my blinders were completely ripped off! If a man can be so hurtful, angry and vile in public to a woman he shared his life with, well...who really could be safe from him. I admit, I used poor logic and the tried and true: oh so and so had it coming to them or Look what they have been getting away with for so long who cares if they like it. Sadly, I forgot what my parents taught me, don't lower yourself to someone else's level, bring thm Up to yours..
I am a big enough woman to admit, you folks were correct all along in your assessment of him. I hope you will accept my sincere apology. BTW...my moral compass is still in the shop, trying to get its bearings straight.
Thank you for reading and wishing you all the best in your continued endevors.
Lynn, I have also apologized because it was I who participated in it. I know now that had I tried to stop it, I could have done nothing except what I've already done = walk out. The real Joe Pilchesky is beyond reason, and by that I mean that he always has a result in mind and if he can manipulate circumstances and people through their own actions to serve his purpose he will do it. That way, when things don't work out for you (but do work out for him) he can hold up a mirror and remind you that YOU made certain choices and that he didn't force you into anything. He's really, really good at doing that. He uses one's moral compass against oneself. That's called gaslighting.
He treated his first wife disgustingly. *****(hgt) was a sweet, pretty, loving mother. Just ask any of the kids. I don't know if the stories Joe told me were tainted to make me scared to defy him, but what he said about his course of conduct with *****(hgt) put me aghast. In fact, if the stories he told me were true, he said that within the first year of his first child's life, he was going to take the child from its mother, and not because of any abuse or mistreatment by *****(hgt). To this day, Joe's oldest daughter does not speak to him.
There are other horror stories.
-- Edited by His Girl Thursday on Tuesday 3rd of April 2012 10:24:45 AM
Nobody here is looking for an apology from you, we did not agree and leave it at that .... as for having blinders on where Mr. Pilchesky is concerned ... well that was a personal problem for you and only you ... didn't really bother anyone here one way or another. We just don't like being told that we should share the fond feeling for Mr. Pilchesky as we have always seen him for what he is ... and that is not the champion of free speech that he proclaims to be.
I post at DD no and again as Joanne let me in to express my opinion ... something Joe did not allow ... differing opinons which promote healthy debate.
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I want everyone to stop and think about one thing ... Joe Pilchesky is not a lawyer ... he's just a guy playing a lawyer on the internet. Please don't trust your legal needs to this man.
Apology accepted though not required :) I am glad you finally came to see him for what he is...he has fooled many so don't feel too too bad....your compass must work a little for you to have found your way back to the center :)
Thanks for the apologies, we're just glad that there are people out there who have their heads above the putrid water circling the bowl across the hall.
I can't speak for everyone here, but I personally would not like to see anything posted here about pilcheski's private live prior to joanne. If you want to speak of your experiences with him, feel free, but let's not bring other innocent people under internet message board scrutiny.
I think I brought up his first wife first ... god rest her soul ... I will try and not do that again not out of respet for him but out of respect for her memory and for the sake of her children ... sorry Girl!
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I want everyone to stop and think about one thing ... Joe Pilchesky is not a lawyer ... he's just a guy playing a lawyer on the internet. Please don't trust your legal needs to this man.
