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I have been reading a few articles online and well if I am to believe these articles there has to be some deeper meaning to my fat ... I am overeating for a reason ... it can't simply be because I enjoy food .... that couldn't possibly be it .... I have read a few articles that tell me to create a food journal ... to write down what I eat ... when I eat it ... how much I have eaten ... and the mood I was in before .... during and after eating .... well damn no wonder people don't lose weight when they say they want to .... how do you fit in anything other than journaling what you ate and how you were feeling about it ... and then you are supposed to fit into that at least 30 minutes a day to work out ...

Well I can tell you this ... there is no deep meaning for me being fat ... I love food ... food sustains your life and it is one addiction that cannot ever be given up totally ... if I werea heroine addict I could get off heroine entirely .... but in order to live .... I can never give up my addiction totally ... so I have to learn how to eat correctly .... and then every now and then allow myself to indulge in the foods that I love.

I know that it is best for me to eat chicken and fish .... witha healthy salad .... and I know that's what I have to do .... and I know that if I want have a cheeseburger .... well then I need to have it on the plate with no bun .... but can I do this for the rest of my life .... that's what I have to figure out .... because that is what it is going to take .... Oh sure I know what you are thinking .... do it for 6 months or so .... until you shed the weight and then you can go back .... but in order for it to be successful ... well I will have to make life changes .... because if I work hard and I'm successful ... well I don't want to go back.

So back to the title of this thread .... is there a deeper meaning behind all overeating or in some cases .... is it simply because we love food? Are we lying to ourselves when we say there is no other reason .... are we afraid to look deep inside ourselves and get to the root of the problem? Or is it just as I have stated .... I LOVE FOOD .... makes on wonder.

Well I have much research to do before I begin .... this is only the first thing that I stumbled upon.

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I once lost about 50 pounds over the course of about 6 months or so. I did it by a combination of working with a Nutritionist and lots of Catholic guilt (I didn't want to disappoint her). I also had another motivation...at the time, I was dealing with a family member who has severe mental health problems, and in some bizzare way feeling so out of control because of that motivated me to take control in an area where I could, namely my eating. Well, I lost the motivation and I've gained a lot of the weight back. I do know how to lose it...it's just a matter of actually acting on the right things.

As for the deeper meaning behind being overweight, I agree that there is. Sure, there are some people (a very small number) that have some kind of physical ailment that makes them heavy (thyriod probems etc), but for most of the rest of us, I'm pretty convinced that it's a function of three things:

1. Mental Health - We rely on food as a comforting support mechanism to help us cope. This is the stess eating.
2. Bad Habits - We sometimes just don't know what the right things to eat are, and we stick with foods we know, even if they are bad for us.
3. Not Understanding Our Own Bodies - I for one will sometimes eat even when I am not hungry. I think look at myself and think "why did you just eat that"? I honestly think that if I only ate things that were actually good for me when I was hungry I'd have the weight thing kicked.

Now I don't want to imply that people with weight problems are not happy. That's just not true. I am not a small person, but I am a reasonably happy person. But I do know that I would be even happier if I weighted, say, around 220 lbs.

-- Edited by Agamemnon at 07:16, 2008-12-02

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For me the deeper meaning was.... forgetting..... while I retained the knowlege of how to pull up to the table I had seemingly forgotten how to push back from the table LOL LOL

Nawwwwwwwwww Lus just like you I really love to eat!! Probably stemming from the fact that I love to cook and bake coupled with the guilt of "wasting food" so EAT! EAT! EAT! lol lol

-- Edited by IHavehadenoughofhaters at 09:27, 2008-12-02

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I tell you that I at my heaviest weighed a little over 300 pounds ... I was always a fat kid ... why ... not because I was unhappy ... but my mother was a good cook ... she could make a gourmet meal out of the cheapest cut of meat ... she did miraculous things with a pound of hamburger feeding a family of 5 ... she loved to cook and we loved to eat it ... so I was a fat kid ...

Then I was a fat adult ... but I remember making a decision to lose weight becaus my knees were hurting and I was only 29 years old ... my back hurt doing the simplest things ... so I made a decision then that I was going to lose the weight and I did ... I went down to 145 pounds ... and I did it fast ... I didn't do it the right way ... that I know ... and every now and then I begin to creep back up and then I lose ... and creep back up and lose ... I know how to take it off ... what I need to learn ... is how to take if off for the long term ... I need to not be influenced by what others are eating ... just because someone offers me an icecream sunday does not mean I have to eat it ... did I mention how much I love icecream?

Anyway I thank you both for your input ... I will be starting ... probably on Monday as I do intend to detox my system with a liquid diet over the weekend (no not alcohol) ... and then on Monday I should have enough recepies to take me through a week ...

And I will put up some of them just in case anyone else wants to try them.



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Well, I did start on Monday January 5th ... and I have been sticking to my diet. Did I tell you all how much I love special K with the berries ... love it and have it every morning for breakfast ...

I was never one to eat breakfast before ... All I wanted in the morning was my coffee ... and then I would eat such a fattening lunch ... deep fried french fries (have not had them and in a while and I have to say ... I don't miss them at all) ... I more likely than not was becoming a walking cholesterol bomb ... a heart attack waiting to happen.

I now find myself crusing around the web to find healthy low cal receipes ... I even have made meatloaf substituing ground turkey for the fat fill hamburger meat I usually use ... I know that I have it in me to do this ... and I know that this is not a "diet" this is something that I am going to have to do for the rest of my life. And for the first time I am ok with that. And as an added benefit ... my family is getting helthier ... although they still eat their french fries and the occassional fast food ... if we do order from fast food places ... I am quite content with the salads ... some are actually quite good. Arbys has a great salad.

I know that I have to have something to look forward to in my week ... so ... I gave myself one day a week to enjoy whatever I want (in moderation of course) ... if I want to have a slice of pizza on a Friday for dinner ... then I'm going to do that ... if I want to go and get a frozen yogurt (really takes alot to do this instead of the ice cream sunday) ... the off I go to get that frozen yogurt ... My thoughts on this is it is not cheating ... it's simply allowing myself one day per week to be human. I will not however allow myself to eat deep fried foods ... I think that would just trigger me right back into my old ways.

And I have given up drinking beer ... I don't really miss is ... who would have thunk that an Irish girl like me would give up the beer ... but I did ... not that I drank a lot of beer ... but when I go out ... that's what I like.

Well anyway ... this is something that usually is very hard for me ... and for some reason it's not that hard this time around ... I guess I was feeling pretty crappy ... and I knew and know that I have to do this in order to feel good. And in the end .... I guess we all want to just feel good ... even if it means giving up the extra piece of pizza and having that beer.

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